CAUSES : Are we bringing up a selfish generation

The problem is with striking a balance between being good parents and good friends, between being teachers and being preachers. There is always hope when you see the millennials helping out at times of otherís needs or doing something good for the society

Every successive generation feels that their seniors are far too restrictive while the older generation feels the younger one isnít sensitive enough. This is not a new phenomenon; rather it has been going on for ages. The point is in trying to appear less restrictive and more understanding, are we bringing up a selfish generation? In trying to be part of the millennials, are we actually increasing the generation gap?

If the current generation is growing up to be entitled and selfish, itís wrong to lay the entire blame on their shoulders. Nor is it right to blame ourselves entirely for this behavior. As more and more families move to a nuclear setup, and both parents stay at work for longer hours, parents tend to use Ďpresentsí to make up for the lack of their Ďpresenceí. Children pick up on this and start demanding more and more. Even though it might not be possible for parents to devote that kind of time to their children, substituting it by gifts should not be an option. Donít feel guilty for being out of the house; make your child respect the hard work you put in instead.

The other thing that is happening is that we as parents want to pamper our children. As we keep fulfilling their wishes, this becomes a habit for them, and they start feeling entitled. There is no respect for the value of money. A better way is to make them earn these things, maybe by helping around the house and doing little chores. By serving everything on a platter, you will never teach your children how to actually earn something.

If we complain about the millennials being addicted to their devices, arenít we to blame for setting such an example? There is always one phone call which is too important or a mail that you have to send which is too urgent. That your child was talking about her day is not a priority. We also need to learn to relax and give our home and family proper devoted time.

The younger generation is not necessarily more selfish than us, nor are we less affectionate than the generation that preceded us. The problem is with striking a balance between being good parents and good friends, between being teachers and being preachers. There is always hope when you see the millennials helping out at times of otherís needs or doing something good for the society at general. Appreciate them, nurture them, but donít spoil them. As they grow in life, they will surely thank you some day.

At SHRI, it is our constant endeavor to enhance social harmony and order. We know that the essential themes of Indian cultural life are learned within the bosom of a family. So we design our homes in such a way that the whole family can stay together and yet retain their individuality.

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